Should We Always Believe Women Alleging Sexual Assault? No. The Allegation Against Joe Biden is Proof Why.

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If you are a regular follower of this blog you will remember the furor that erupted here when I questioned the fairness of the treatment of Supreme Court justice nominee Brett Kavanaugh by Democratic senators in his confirmation hearing.   The issue:  The sudden, and seemingly out of nowhere, allegation of sexual assault from his days in high school.  I was disturbed by the Democrats rush to “hang” the man based on very little evidence.

In this country, at least in our lifetimes, we convict people based on evidence not based on the hysteria of the lynch mob.  Yet, after expressing this view in a post, I was attacked by several female readers for not accepting the word of the woman accuser.  “Always Believe the Woman” was the outcry.

So I am stunned by the near total silence of Democratic women—in particular the silence of the Democratic women senators who mercilessly skewered conservative Republican Brett Kavanaugh—on the recent allegation of sexual assault against presumptive Democratic presidential nominee, Joe Biden.

Not a single one of these female Democratic senators are calling for Joe Biden to end his campaign for president due to this allegation.

What happened to “Always Believe the Woman”??

Why the double standard?

(FYI:  I do not believe that the woman accusing Joe Biden of sexual assault is credible.  She is a fervent Bernie Sanders supporter, for one.  She is also an adoring admirer of Vladimir Putin—is she a Russian “asset”?  But most importantly, her story has changed repeatedly.  Check out this excellent article by an experienced sexual violence prosecutor, here.)

I believe the answer is simple:  Politics!

And that should be a wake up call for every fair-minded, law and justice loving Democrat/liberal who jumped on the bandwagon to keep Brett Kavanaugh off the Supreme Court based on similar weak, questionable evidence!  You reap what you sow!

In such a serious matter, do not follow your emotions and your biases, folks. Look at the evidence!  Justice must be equal and fair, regardless of the accused’s political party and regardless of the accused’s gender!

Absolutely, every woman who alleges she has been sexually assaulted should be heard.  Absolutely, her accusations should always be taken seriously and fully investigated.  But should we automatically believe her to the point that we destroy another human being’s reputation and career, or worse, convict him and put him in jail, based on her word alone?  No way!  That is not the American way.  That is not justice.

Every man and every woman in this country is innocent until proven guilty.  Period.  Let the evidence convict and punish the guilty, not the howls of the lynch mob.




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10 thoughts on “Should We Always Believe Women Alleging Sexual Assault? No. The Allegation Against Joe Biden is Proof Why.

  1. As a woman I have this to say … I would lay odds that every man at some point in their life “took advantage of” a woman. It may have been nothing more than putting an arm around a woman’s shoulders … or affectionately rubbing her arm … even giving her a quick peck on the cheek. While none of these actions may seem offensive to the man — or even to some women — there are other women who would consider any one of them as a violation of her space.

    This is why every man should pay close attention to the “signals” because when they don’t, situations like Brett Kavanaugh and currently, Joe Biden, are bound to occur. By the same token, the woman who feels uncomfortable with the man’s actions should make her feelings immediately known.

    I absolutely agree that all such claims need to be thoroughly investigated … but even then, the he-said/she-said script will invariably make it difficult to arrive at a irrefutable conclusion.


    1. Nan, I agree, but would also add to this comment that we all need to be aware of the feeling of others, and what might constitute a violation of personal space.

      I tend to be this touchy feely type person and more physically affectionate. I was reared in this way. So, it was nothing for me when I was younger to hug even people that I might have recently met in greeting them, or to physically touch them on the arm or shoulder in the course of a conversation, etc. Sometimes I might kiss friends or acquaintances on the cheek. It was almost automatic.

      Then one time several years ago, a co worker asked me to stop this as it made her feel uncomfortable. I was mortified, and realized this could even be misconstrued. Now I’m extremely aware of personal space, and don’t give folks hugs without first asking if this is ok.


      1. Becky, a woman doing the things you mentioned is considerably different than a man doing those same things. I’m curious — how would you have felt if a man had done these touchy-feely things to you?

        Like I said in my comment, some women are not bothered by male touching … others most definitely are. IMO, men in general would do well to keep their hands to themselves unless they are in a relationship and have “unspoken” permission.


        1. I think there has always been a red line for men when it comes to caressing or kissing a woman who is a complete stranger. Society may have not recoiled in horror at such actions as they do today but it was still seen as inappropriate.

          I think the big issue today is what is and what is not appropriate on a “date”, in particular, a first date. Men have been taught that it is their responsibility to “make the first move” and that it is the woman’s responsibility to say “stop” when his advances have gone as far as she is willing to go. We have all seen the movies where the teenage boy yawns, stretches his arms, and then slowly puts his arm around the teenage girl with whom he is on a first date. Is he supposed to ask permission before he puts his arm around her? Is that what most women want or do they want the man to be a little assertive? Must a teenage boy ask all the following questions on the first date??

          “So, Jeannie, do you want me to initiate romantic physical contact on my own initiative tonight and stop only when you say “stop”, or, do you want me to ask your permission before I attempt to get to first base, then again when I attempt to go to second base, and again when I attempt to go to third base, and again when I attempt to go for a home run?”

          When an adult man and woman are on the first date and they are leaning in to each other talking romantically, can the man assume that the woman wants him to kiss her or must he ask her if he has permission to kiss her??

          The rules have turned upside down for men. I’m very glad that I am happily married! If I make a move on my wife that she doesn’t want, she just rolls over, swats my hand away, and says, “Not now!”.

          Let’s apply the above dilemma to the allegation against Brett Kavanaugh. His accuser states that she and Kavanaugh and another boy were in a bedroom alone and that Kavanaugh pushed onto the bed, got on top of her, and held her down. My first thought is: Why was she in a bedroom, at a party, with two teenage boys?? As a teenage boy I would assume that a girl who was going into a bedroom, at a party, with me and my friend, was romantically/sexually interested in one or both of us. So what happened next in the bedroom? Did someone shut the door? If yes, did she try to leave? If she did, and that is when she was tackled onto the bed, then that is assault, plain and simple. However, if the door was closed and she did not try to leave, what happened next? Was there flirting going on prior to Kavanaugh pushing her onto the bed or were they studying algebra together? If there was flirting, any teenage boy, at a party, in a bedroom, with the door closed, is going to assume that he is being given the green light to make a sexual advance, and one such advance would be to embrace the female and gently push her onto the bed, where he will be on top of her, “holding her down”. If at that point she doesn’t want to proceed, she should very clearly state, “GET OFF OF ME RIGHT NOW!”. If he does not immediately get off of her, she should scream at the top of her lungs and start struggling. Did that happen?

          Bottom line: Boys are taught in our society to make the first move without asking permission if the woman has given signals that she is romantically interested. Going into a bedroom, at a party, with two teenage boys is a “signal” to make a move.

          I’m so glad I am not a teenage boy, but I am very concerned about my 12 year old son who will be facing these issues soon. Must he ask for permission when he wants to hold a girl’s hand on their first date?? I will probably tell him he should ask, just to be on the safe side.


          1. I appreciate your remarks re: teenagers. However, the Biden incident didn’t involve two teenagers. The Kananaugh incident reportedly occurred during high school (yes, teenage years), but there was drinking involved and I think you will agree that puts a different slant on things. Nevertheless, I do understand your points.

            I certainly don’t envy you your role as the parent of a teen-age boy. I didn’t have boys, but I can tell you that teaching girls to “do the right thing” is also a challenge.


            1. I also have a soon to be teenage girl. Yikes!

              By the way, I just reviewed Professor Ford’s statement. She alleges she was pushed from behind into the bedroom. That changes my view considerably, if it is true. Unfortunately, she never told anyone that Brett Kavanaugh was the perpetrator until 30 years later.


        2. Nan, it depends on the situation. We had friends from a culture where it was customary in greeting to hug and kiss one another on the cheek, men and women. Our male pastor will sometimes hug both my husband and me. We think nothing of it.

          On the other hand, the situation would be different if this was a person we didn’t know or if there were other factors.

          But, I can certainly see your point.


          1. My comments were in reference to the U.S. — not “other cultures.” I’m aware that we aren’t the standard for the world.

            Church-y people do tend to be very touchy-feely. But as I’ve been saying, there are those who don’t mind while others do. The latter most likely prefer to shake hands and would probably inwardly recoil if someone “hugged” them.

            I’ve tried to point out in my comments that I’m not encapsulating EVERYONE. We are all different. However, I do think it’s important for each of us –but especially men– to be cognizant of our actions towards others.


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