“It’s so sad.” This is the most common response I have heard from family, friends, and other interested believers upon learning of my loss of faith…
I have been told that if I had embraced a slightly different brand of Christianity, I could have avoided coming down this path. It was because I believed incorrectly, or because I wasn’t truly a believer in the first place, or because I did not seek God earnestly enough, or because I did not submit to his sovereignty, that I ended up abandoning the faith. At times I have explained to others my reasons for doubting, only to have these reasons dismissed with the question, “So what’s the real reason you left God?” I often sense a conviction on their part that my disbelief must stem from an inward moral flaw.
—Kenneth W. Daniels, former fundamentalist Christian missionary, in his book, “Why I Believed”
Gary: I’m sure that the vast majority of ex-Christians turned atheist/agnostic can relate to this statement. I sure can.
“Gary, Gary, Gary. If only you had _______.” (Fill in the blank.)
…been a member of MY denomination.
…read more books by Christian scholars.
…been a REAL Christian in the first place.
…etc., etc..
Christians of all stripes cannot believe that I deconverted from Christianity based on EVIDENCE. That is just incomprehensible to them.
Escaping Christian Fundamentalism 
Great book! Read it several years ago. Another great book is “Things I Never Learned in Sunday School.” 😀
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That was the book I read prior to fully abandoning Christianity. There were many leading up to it, but I finally have to be intellectually honest with myself, my family, and my friends.
I’m glad I made that decision.
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